Jul 19, 2011

The Power of Affirmation

"Therefore encourage one another and build each other up..."
A few days ago, I was speaking with a friend and fellow mom. "One thing my husband is good about," she told me, "is acknowledging how difficult it is to be a mom. Somehow that affirmation makes a really big difference, even if he isn't always that helpful with the kids."

How true that is! Knowing that others understand our difficulties and appreciate our efforts immediately softens our heart. Grumpiness, complaints, and feelings of self-pity tend to vanish. Our mood is lifted and we can more easily focus on serving others.

Unfortunately, many modern moms (including myself) fall into the trap of always wishing someone would help and affirm them - all the while forgetting to affirm others. You know how great affirmation makes you feel. How much better would your husband feel if you found ways to affirm him? And what about your kids? Finding even a single thing each day to affirm for them can make a huge difference in how your children feel about themselves and how they treat others. And maybe, just maybe, some of that affirmation will head back in your direction, too.
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"Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen."
Ephesians 4:29

2 comments:

  1. this is good and reminds me of a site I found called; lifesbetterhere.org
    she too has amazing wisdom and insights. God bless

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  2. This is so right. Seemingly so easy, but also easy to forget. In my quest to learn how God designed the role of wife and how I need to live that out, I've been convicted about this lately. I actually just finished reading a great new book that aligns with this so well, from the perspective that the only one I can, or should, control in my marriage is me! It's Biblical, challenging and affirming. It's called "The Wholehearted Wife: 10 Keys to a More Loving Relationship," by Erin, Greg and Gary Smalley. Biblical, inspirational, affirming. One of my favorite quotes is, "When we turn to God for help, he fills us with his love and enables us to see ourselves and our husbands through his eyes. Keep in mind that a wholehearted wife focuses first on her own heart!" I highly recommend it!

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